I’ve wanted to write more about compatibility here, but I haven’t given in to the temptation to talk about my own experiences. That didn’t seem right somehow, given that talking about old relationships naturally means talking about the other person… and this isn’t one of those blogs where I’m going to go on about specifics, like how Heppa The Icelandic Stripper promised me the world and then broke my heart. It’s not my style to wave other people’s dirty laundry around in public.
I’ve found a solution. Below you will find snapshots presented in random order — brief extracts from the birth charts of some Significant Others — and how that part of them interacted with me both astrologically and observably.
Should any of the exes mentioned here come across this blog, they’ll probably recognize themselves. So, for you: you’ve been immortalized, in public, yet anonymously.
Isn’t that cunning of me? You always loved my brainpower…
Her Moon/Ascendant trines my Sun
Her Venus sextiles my Venus
Her Mars squares my Saturn
What fantastic buddies! What jolly partners in crime! Everything was great… but we fought. Neither of us wanted it, but the amazing energies released by Mars and Saturn always ended up coming out as anger and hostility in the end. We were like a nature film of two ants fighting, where one ant gets his head ripped off… but he keeps fighting anyway. Over and over and over…
Other than the frequent decapitations, it was great.
Her North Node conjuncts my Sun
Her Venus squares my Venus
Her Moon/Uranus conjunction squares my Moon/Mars opposition
I think you saw in me everything that you ultimately wanted in a man. What I don’t think you saw… and what I didn’t want to admit I saw… is that we started off in different directions and never really grew together. Which is a shame, because in a world full of crazy people, your craziness was kind and decent. May your Soul Mate Quest end as magically as you deserve.
Her Moon conjuncts my Moon (in Cancer)
Her Jupiter squares my Venus
Her Sun conjuncts my Uranus/Pluto conjunction
You’re so sweet and so caring, and you love cookies as much as I do. And you are beautiful: beautiful enough to make a living from it, but too modest and shy to make a real go of it. Which is a shame, because that quality only makes you more beautiful. You wear it well, and it reflects what’s inside you.
Too bad you thought I was completely nuts and unstable and I was completely NOT what your family wanted for you.
Her Mercury/Mars/Jupiter conjunction sextiles my Moon/trines my Mars
Her Pluto EXACTLY opposes my Saturn
Oh God! Everything about us was fantastic, from the bedroom where it started into the wild strange world we discovered together. But we were doomed and unstable together… as doomed and unstable as we were as individuals at that time. But, out of everyone listed here… I still empathize with you most of all. Shine on, you crazy diamond.
Her Sun squares my Moon and Mars
Her Neptune conjuncts my Sun
Her Saturn/South Node forms no aspects to anything in my chart
We certainly got each other’s attention, and in many ways seemed to be the answer to each other’s prayers. We were everything the other was looking for. And yet it had all the staying power of a house of cards in a hurricane, and the practical obstacles that could have been overcome looked like mountains, from my angle.
So I choked.
Her Ascendant conjuncts my Sun
Her Mercury opposes my Saturn
Her Sun squares my Mercury/Nodes
Everything about us had a feeling of Destiny. When we first met, casual though it was, time stopped, like a flashback scene from Highlander. We had known each other before, and would know each other again. And on top of that, we both seemed to be exactly what the other needed, even if we could never really define it. But when you told me you loved me… it felt forced. And I needed that from you, more than anything. More than with anyone else.
Of course, what I really needed was a mother, and what you really needed was a husband.
Too bad for both of us we already had those.